Surrogacy: My Story, and Everything You Need to Know
- Ali Abbas
- Jan 15, 2023
- 3 min read
"You will never have kids," words no couple wants to ever hear. That's also exactly what the doctor told my wife as she recovered consciousness. A stream of tears went down her cheeks. We had both eagerly wanted children of our own from the day we got married. She was heartbroken and I could figure out a sense of sadness and deep depression in her eyes. We both sat just sat there speechlessly.
Written By: Ali Abbas
January 15th, 2023
My wife and I both wanted to make a family, and wanted to have two kids - whether that be both girls or both boys, or one girl and one boy. I could see her dreams draining in her tears. It looked as if everything we had ever planned for and wanted was ruined. After three days she was discharged from the hospital. We were told to visit the doctor every fourth day.
My wife had been diagnosed with endometrial cancer. After a series of laboratory tests, a Endometrial Biopsy specialist recommended a hysterectomy. A hysterectomy is a medical procedure in which the uterus is removed surgically from the body of a woman. The procedure may be adopted due to several health issues; endometrial cancer, HIV, and various other complications.
On our third follow-up visit to the doctor, I had an inclination to ask the doctor, Mr. Mark, for the other options available in order to still have kids with my wife, Leena. After taking another look at the reports, he told me that surrogacy was a viable option. A sudden wave of emotions amalgamated inside me, and I was filled with both a sense of curiosity and happiness. His words provided confidence that I could still be a father, something I had long desired. I had so many questions I wanted to ask the doctor.
What is Surrogacy?
What is the Cost?
Who should go for Surrogacy?
What are the health issues related to the procedure?
Does the procedure have any legal repercussions?
What is Surrogacy?
Surrogacy is a procedure in which The egg of a mother and the sperm of the father is fertilized outside the body of the female ( IVF). After fertilization, the embryo which has been developed will be transferred to a surrogate. After the birth, the baby is handed over to the intended parents.
What is the Cost?
Surrogacy has different prices in different states of the USA. It may cost from $40000-$75000, according to the agreements made between the surrogate and intended parents.
Who should go for Surrogacy?
Surrogacy is adopted for parents who could not get pregnant due to any reason, medical or otherwise. It is more common in same-sex couples and transgenders.
What are the Health Issues Related to the Procedure?
There are no observed and reported health problems in surrogacy, as long as the surrogate and intended parents are well.
Does the procedure have any legal repercussions?
It all depends on the agreement made between the surrogate and the intended parents. One adopting the procedure should reach out to a lawyer for legal assistance. It should be mentioned in the agreement who will be the parent of the baby. The agreement made should be equally beneficial to the surrogate as well as to the intended parents.
How to Select a Surrogate
The WHO recommends the Surrogate should be at 21 years of age. The surrogate must have given birth to a healthy baby previously, so that she understands all the complications of pregnancy.
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